A breakup letter for a friend

Letting go is one of the hardest things - and is something I have a prayer to learn to do in a good way. Please, Great Spirit, help me let go of everything that is letting go of me.

I share this real-life friendship breakup letter, names removed, as an offering of a possibility. This is not a post about proving a point or making anyone wrong, which is so often the energy that goes with breakups, separations, and talking about them publicly. It is not about shaming. It is about the wisdom of letting go. It is a prayer to be permanently relieved of the habit of righteousness and of positioning against / above / below.

We all go through breakups. We all put off breakups. We all struggle in some way or another with letting go. What follows is an artifact of a culminating moment (and communication) of let-go with an old friend. I feel proud of myself for this letter and the alchemy of my heart in the moment I wrote it. I also would be remiss not to name the months and years of suffering and guarded-heartedness that preceded it.

May we all learn how to let go and forgive ourselves and others, with pure love and fierce tenderness in our hearts. May we create the boundaries that afford us peace and that make room for everything good that is available to us now.